Let others happen.

Let others happen. ‘Yeah, good luck with that,’ you might say. And I agree with you. The possibility to let others happen is no simple task. First we have to drop judging.

When my wife says something that is obviously unconsidered, I typically respond with, “Don’t be stupid.” I have not only created a gulf between us in that moment, I have also reinforced her childhood pattern of unworthiness.

But there is a better option. Can you remember to watch yourself in the heat of the moment? Can you notice the act of judgment? The consequence is freedom for the other, and that leads to freedom for yourself.

Imagine allowing the other the space to be just as they are. (After all, your judgments are your prison.)

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s